Healing After a Breakup or Situationship: The Healing Nobody Talks About

“You weren’t crazy. You were just deeply hopeful it would work.”
But healing doesn’t come from closure, it comes from clarity.

Let’s Get Honest:

Breakups hurt.
Situationships? Sometimes they hurt even more.
Because you’re grieving something that never fully existed, the potential, the almost, the what-if.

And no, listening to sad playlists, posting vague stories, or jumping into distractions is not healing, it’s escaping.

So let’s talk real healing. Not the “get over it” kind, but the rise-from-it kind. The healing no one told you how to do.

Step 1: Name What You Lost Beyond the Person

You didn’t just lose someone.
You lost:

• A version of you that believed in this.

• The imagined future.

• A sense of safety, consistency, or attention.

Action Step: Write a letter, not to them, but to yourself in that relationship.
Tell her:

• What she hoped for

• What she deserved

• And what she now knows better

This isn’t for closure. It’s for integration. So you don’t carry this pain into your next chapter.

Step 2: Stop Asking “Why” – Start Asking “What Now?”

You will never fully understand why they left, ghosted, breadcrumbed, or changed.
What you can understand is: what it revealed about you.

• Did you ignore red flags because of loneliness?

• Did you fear setting boundaries?

• Were you addicted to potential, not the reality?

Self-Reflection Exercise :

“What patterns did I repeat in this connection that I’ve seen before?”
“What needs of mine were unmet and why did I settle?”

This is how healing gets personalized. This is the lesson.

Step 3: Unfollow, Mute, Block Without Guilt

Yes, it’s okay to remove them from your digital space.
Healing requires emotional oxygen.
And you cannot breathe if you’re watching their stories, decoding their posts, or waiting for a text.

Mantra: Protecting my peace is more important than proving my strength.

You are not weak for blocking. You’re wise.

Step 4: Teach Your Brain Safety Without Them

The hardest part isn’t missing them. It’s feeling empty without their presence.

Your brain made them a habit.
And healing is habit rewiring.

So, let’s replace that dopamine source with: 

Healing happens when your nervous system stops associating them with safety.

Step 5: Stop Waiting to “Feel Ready” to Move On

You don’t need to be fully healed to:

• Start showing up again.

• Laugh without guilt.

• Say yes to new connections.

-Healing doesn’t mean: “I don’t think about them.”
-Healing means: “They no longer control how I show up for myself.”

Your life is not on pause. You are not broken.
You are rebirthing a new version of yourself, one with boundaries, clarity, and deeper self-trust.

Daily Healing Practices (That Actually Work)

-Mirror Talk (2 min a day)

“I am not hard to love. I am hard to manipulate.”
“My worth is not based on who chooses me.”

-Emotional Check-In (every night)

Ask: “What did I need today that I didn’t give myself?”
Give it tomorrow.

-Unfollow One Thought Per Day

Catch one negative belief like:

• “I’ll never find someone like them”
  Replace it with:

• “I won’t and that’s exactly the point.”

You’re Not Meant to Go Back to Who You Were

You’re meant to become who you were always meant to be, but couldn’t because you kept shrinking to fit someone else’s idea of love.

Read that again.

You are not behind.
You’re just finally choosing yourself and that’s the beginning of real love.

Need Help Personalizing This Journey?

If this spoke to you and you’re tired of healing alone, I am here to guide you.

👉 Book a 1:1 session
👉 Or explore more healing blogs like:

• Signs of Emotional Maturity

• How to Identity Reg Flags in the Talking Stage

-by Nidhi Joshi, Founder